Friday, December 31, 2010

Classic Part 4 Cars is Now Live with Great Antique Ford Engine Parts

Classic Parts 4 Cars ( is a joint venture between Debbie Shelor and John Shelor.
John is a mechanial engineer with a passion for old Ford antique cars and the parts that make their engine's run. Debbie, his daughter, is an Industrial Engineer with a passion for website design and marketing.
They put the two together and launched a website offering the numerous period parts for antique Ford engines that he's been hording and collecting over the years.
John has engine replacement parts for everything from the earliest Ford V8 engines made in 1932 to a 6-cylinder made in 1973.
Some of the parts available include rod and main bearings, gaskets, piston rings, and more.
Soon they will be launching a blog sharing some of John's vast knowledge about old Ford engines and how to make them run better.

Sunday, November 21, 2010

Proof of Reincarnation

Recently on Facebook someone posted this YouTube video about a very interesting reincarnation story. It's a truly fascinating bit of video that was shown on FOX news.
Here's the Link:

I hear about so many situations where the child is saying "I was this person. This is what I did. This is where I lived. My wife's name was ___." And since the parents don't believe in the stuff and have no reference for it, they literally don't know what to do. It freaks them out. They try to talk the kid out of saying all the stuff - sometimes using punishment. Which of course confuses the child.
In the wrong hands, certain religions or cults, the head person - whoever that may be - would say the child is possessed, which would lead to all sorts of horrible experiences. Its amazing what people do in circumstances that cause them to be afraid. When, in reality, the child is only saying the truth.
It reminds me of a famous story about a little boy about 4 who had a brand new brother or sister. He kept insisting that he wanted to be in the room with the baby alone. Well, the parents didn't know what to do with that. So they decided to let him be with the baby, but they had the room monitor on so they could hear. The little boy didn't know the room monitor was on. Apparently he went over to the infant, leaned down and whispered, "Help me remember. I'm forgetting who God is."
Anyway, beautiful story.
We all forget the older we get. We all forget being connected, re-membering the truth about who God is, who we are, that we are a divine being having a human experience, that joy is our natural state of being, and that struggle and strife are human creations, that love heals everything and is the greatest force in the Universe.
Debbie "Takara" Shelor
To find out more about Reincarnation, the truth about God, and much more, visit http://www.spiritofnature.og

Thursday, November 18, 2010

Adultery and Facebook

Someone posted a comment on my wall on Facebook asking if I'd heard about the minister who insisted that his leadership turn off their facebook pages because it leads to adultery.

This was my response:

"Where there's a will, there's a way I think." Leading to adultery - I don't think so. If a person chooses to have a conversation with a person of the opposite sex, then they should use common sense, manners, and appropriateness - whether they are on or off line.

Marriage is a sacred contract and adultery isn't typically a part of that equation. Doesn't mean every person follows that rule. Look at the divorce statistics - much of it has to do with wandering spouses and the pain that causes. lol (lol means laugh out loud for those who don't yet know the little codes used texting messages.)

Anyway, when two people are married, - continuing to love, honor, and cherish one another - they just aren't going to stray. If they are taking each other for granted, belittling one another, constantly criticizing or being criticized, and no longer appreciating the "gift" of the other person in their life, the marriage is in trouble and FB is one of many great places to have an extramarital thing - finding someone who does appreciate you.

I won't get into the middle age crisis and the totally stupid things people do then.

I love what Paul Newman said about his wife. Someone asked him if he ever strayed and his reply was, "Why go out for hamburger, when you have steak at home." Not that I'm really into beef. lol. But I believe that if you can't continuously adore (appreciate everything about a person, quirks and all), then you shouldn't be married to them.

But I'm a very loyal and committed person. When I make a commitment, I stick to it through thick and thin. Not everyone is like that. I learned that the hard way.

The ability to chat with someone is fun on FB. And I've certainly had guys flirt with me. But I rarely engage in chats with people I don't know. Most of the time I appear "offline." I'm too busy. I have too much going on in life. I'd rather call the people I want to talk to.

Bottom line, FB is a great place to share what's going on in your life, find out what's happening with your friends, and reconnect with people you haven't heard from in ages. It's also a great place to network for business.

If you like your spouse and your marriage, don't do anything to mess it up. It has too much value. The price isn't worth it. Trust is a delicate thing. Once its gone, everything else falls apart like a house of cards.   

Have a deLightful day,

I would love to hear what you have to say about this subject!

Saturday, October 30, 2010

Back from the South Pacific

I'm now back from the South Pacific.

You can read all about my adventures in Fiji, Vanuatu, and New Caledonia at Adventures at Sea with Debbie Shelor. There's a great little video that includes lots of dolphin pictures. 

Have a deLightful day,

I would love to hear what you have to say about this subject!

Monday, October 18, 2010

Now in New Caledonia - Paris of the South Pacific

Up to 30 blog posts at Check it out. I'm currently in New Caledonia. Been having quite the adventure so far.


Debbie Takara Shelor

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

South Sea Adventure Blog Updates

Just made blog entry number 25 on Adventures At Sea with Debbie Shelor. Read all about my adventures in Fiji, Vanuatu, and more.

Saturday, October 2, 2010

Sailing Through Homeschooling

Here's a great article about traveling and homeschool:

Brian, the owner/captain of the yacht I'm on at the moment, is friends with the family on the sailing vessel Totem mentioned in this article. We haven't caught up with them yet in the South Pacific, but we have encountered a couple of other families homeschooling and sailing.

What a fabulous experience for all involved.


If you are interested in more information about homeschooling, visit my homeschool blog:

Thursday, September 30, 2010

Adventures at Sea Blog with Debbie Shelor - Visit my south pacific adventures website.
We've now been here for 2 weeks. I am exhileratingly happy. It's been at least 30 years since I had a tan this wonderful. We've made many new friends. Jess has faced and conquered many new experiences.

Visit the blog link above. I''ve posted 12 entries so far - complete with photos.
I'm having trouble accessing Facebook. So if you visit the blog, please leave a comment there.
Dolphin swims from the South Pacific,

Friday, September 17, 2010

Bula - Hello From Fiji

It's noon on Saturday here in the South Pacific. Wow - a great and adventurous trip so far!

We drove to D.C. on Monday. Did some last minute packing and shopping, had a fabulous Ethiopian meal.

Our flight headed out on Tuesday at 4:30 from Dulles. A 5 hour ride to L.A. We got to see the new Karate Kid movie. It was truly great. If you haven't seen it, I think you will like it.

In L.A. we had a 5 hour lay over. When I went to the counter to get our boarding passes to Fiji, I was told that without a return ticket or a ticket to somewhere else, they could not let us on the plane. Yikes! I had a picture of the boat we were boarding in Fiji as well as a letter from the captain, but that wasn't good enough. After all the money I'd been spending on preparing for the trip, I didn't have enough in any one account to purchase two full fares from Fiji to Syndey. So I had to call my mom in the middle of the night. It was around 11 East Coast time already. I said, what a horrible daughter I am. Wake your mom up in the middle of the night to ask for money. What great parents though, they bought the ticket and we were able to get our boarding passes. The ticket to Sydney is refundable.

The waiting area for the flight we were taking on Air Pacific had enough chairs to hold about 20 people. We couldn't figure out how a really tiny plane was going to fly 10 hours without refueling. Turns out its just a small waiting area. They stuck us on buses and transported us to a big jumbo jet.

The flight was the worst I've ever taken. The plane was nice enough, but neither Jess nor I could sleep. By the time we took off it was already 2:30  a.m. East Coast time. Once on the plane, I had eye shades, ear plugs, neck pillows. We added the small pillow and blanket the airline provides. We should have been golden and gone right to sleep. But neither of us could. We never did sleep.

Finally we arrived in Fiji where our sweet Fijian taxi guy picked us up at 5:30 a.m. and drove us to the Marina. What a gorgeous drive.

We boarded the Furthur and began the adventure here.

It's taken a few days to catch up on sleep. But by now, we are good to go.

This morning I woke up at 5:30 a.m., got up before anyone else and headed to the top deck. I wrote for awhile on my new book, then photographed the sunrise over one of the Fiji islands. We are anchored off shore near a gorgeous marina where we had dinner yesterday.

During low tide an island pops out of the sea. We took the dingy over and snorkeled this morning around the coral reefs. What cool fish. It was Jess' first snorkel experience. He loved it.

Later he got to kayak for the first time.

Gotta go. The internet connection is very slow. So, no pictures or anything, even though I've already taken a couple hundred.

Hello to all our friends everywhere.

Until next time,

Deb and Jess 

Sunday, September 5, 2010

Dolphinarium in SW Turkey closed after NGO campaign - Hurriyet Daily News and Economic Review

A dolphinarium in southwestern Turkey that attracted controversy due to concerns about the living conditions of the venue’s dolphins has been closed and the park’s mammals freed following efforts from civil society organizations.

“This has been an intense but effective campaign but we will only feel truly happy when the [dolphins] are finally back in the wild. This shows how much can be achieved by a collaborative effort and people working together across the world with one collective aim: a real testament to the power of the people. With modern communications and clear aims, we have shown what can be achieved,” Nichola Chapman of Dolphin Angels, one of the nongovernmental organizations that fought to secure the release of the park’s two dolphins, said over the weekend.

Dolphin Angels, along with NGOs Born Free and SAD/DEMAG, fought for many months to close the dolphinarium and free its dolphins.

Businessman Alexandr Kuznetzov and a group of investors rented land in the resort of Hisarönü from Ölüdeniz Municipality in the southwestern province of Mu�la earlier in 2010. They brought two dolphins, Tom and Misha, from the nearby district of Ka� in May and were reportedly charging tourists 50 pounds for the opportunity to swim with the mammals at the dolphinarium.

The campaign to save the animals was started by a group of British expats and Turks who organized protest marches and lobbied the Turkish government. Calling themselves the Dolphin Angels, they marched against the Dolphin Park and persuaded many travel companies to boycott the dolphinarium.

“Captivity is unacceptable for dolphins. We simply cannot stand by and allow this kind of exploitation to happen,” lawyer �ule Beder said in the wake of the announcement to close the dolphinarium. “For months we have been determined to send them back to the wild where they belong. The shabby pool is no place for these wonderful creatures.”

Negotiations with the facility’s owners and the local authority finally secured a license for NGOs to care for the dolphins.

Dolphins to be moved to Mediterranean

Together with marine experts John Knight and Doug Cartlidge and a team from British Divers Marine Life Rescue, plans have been made to move the dolphins to a special sea reserve where they will be rehabilitated and eventually released into the wild.

On Saturday, Born Free was waiting for the final paperwork to secure the dolphins’ permanent release. The move to a location off the south coast of Turkey will take five hours, a journey that may further damage the mammals’ health.

Knight, however, believes the move is a risk worth taking. “Despite the conditions, it is testimony to their natural strength they have survived so far. I am reasonably confident we can pull it off but a move from a place like this will always carry risks,” he said.

Lesley Robinson, Cath �nanur, Can �nanur, Dawne Büyük, Meral Büyük, Do�an Eraslan and many others worked tirelessly to rescue the dolphins and were supported by more than 21,000 members of the ‘Free the Ölüdeniz Dolphins’ Facebook group, created by Joanne Davies and the Cal�� Beach Forum.

“This has been an amazing journey for us all, with so many ups and downs, like a roller coaster,” Robinson said. “Now the dolphins’ own journey back to freedom has begun. There will be many more months of hard work but the experts are now there to help Tom and Misha recover their strength.”

Erdem Danyer and his assistant, I��l Aytemiz, two veterinarians who have been working together with the British team of experts, will help with the dolphins’ care and rehabilitation.

NGOs plead for continued donations

Tom and Misha’s mood seemed to improve Saturday as rescuers prepared their equipment in Fethiye. Moreover, in what must only be considered a lucky omen, a pod of wild dolphins swam over to greet the pair.

Although the dolphinarium has now been closed and arrangements made to transport the dolphins elsewhere, Born Free and Dolphin Angels are appealing for donations to help fund the rescue, which will cost the charities 150,000 pounds.

On Friday Sept. 10, there will be a jazz fundraising evening at Aksazlar Beach Club in Fethiye to help with the rehabilitation and education programs. Organizers are hoping the event, one of the first of its kind ever staged in Fethiye, will provide an opportunity to celebrate the dolphins’ release while also covering the cost of their rescue.

Meanwhile, on Oct. 3 at The Winehouse, in Üzümlü, Fethiye, there will be an auction of a specially commissioned oil painting by the well-known and highly respected British artist, Ben Maile. 

To contribute to Tom and Misha’s rescue fund, visit

For more information on Jazz at Aksaz call �emsi Toprak at + 90 532 475 24 63

For further information about the Maile painting auction, call The Winehouse in Üzümlü at +90 252 662 20 25.

This is great news!

Several years ago I left the corporate world and moved to the San Juan Islands off Washington State to co-found a non-profit for dolphins and whales. Our organization, along with many others, were working to get Lolita released. Lolita is an orca who was captured from Puget Sound and has been held captive and performing for the past 40 years. Efforts to have her released have been unsuccessful.

I find it interesting that I am about to board a plane and fly to Fiji to spend a month on board a boat whose captain I met while living in the San Juans and working on this project.

I pray that one day soon they will all swim free.

Debbie Takara Shelor

Saturday, September 4, 2010

How Do You Prefer to Receive My Information?

I've been writing for months on 3 new programs.

The first I call "The Platinum Principal." After years of being guided to learn about various topics and receiving insight directly about them, it has finally been revealed to me that everything I've been doing is related to this one all encompassing principal. This principal, once thoroughly understood and consistently applied, will completely transform your life (in a good way) and assist you in every area of life.

The next is "The Joy Weaver's Code." This is a set of guidelines, or truths, about how life works and ways to view things that are empowering and bring more joy into your life. I've been working on it with my dear friend and colleague, Millie Stefani. I don't yet have the final number, but I believe there are about 40 or so "codes."

Finally, the "Adventures of a Modern Day Mystic" is somewhat of an autobiography in which I reveal all the wild things I've experienced and some of the insights I've gained by experiencing them.

My question to you is, do you prefer things be in a live workshop, a book or workbook, audio, video, teleseminar (live phone seminar), webinar (live web seminar), or a combination? Make a comment on this post to let me know your preferences for receiving my information.

Also, I've been talking with my famous dolphin swim guide friend, Roberta Goodman, and we are discussing putting a trip together to swim with wild dolphins in Hawaii. I need to know who is interested. Comment below if you want to frolic in the ocean next spring with Robert, the dolphins, and I.   

Have a deLightful day,

Wednesday, September 1, 2010

Manifest Your Desires and Fall Equinox Meditations

In this issue of Magnificent News I talk about my trip in a few days to Fiji, Australia, and other islands in the South Pacific. Plus:

  • Events Coming Up - Fall Equinox Meditations and more
  • Know What you Want, Take Actions Towards It, Dreams Do Come True
  • Beta Testers Needed
  • What's On Sale
  • The Winner of this Month's Contest
  • On the Blog

Read the latest Here's to Your Magnificence newsletterr here:

Saturday, August 21, 2010

Adventures in the South Pacific

In less than a month my son and I will be leaving for Fiji. We'll be boarding the Furthur:

Living aboard this vessel, we'll be island hopping and frolicking in the South Pacific for a month. We are planning to return from Australia.

I'll be using this website to post pictures, videos, and updates about our fun in the sun.

I thought I'd go ahead and get started by showing you what will soon be our home away from home.

Have a deLightful day,

I would love to hear what you have to say about this subject!

Monday, August 2, 2010

Long Distance Energy Healing - Light Activation with Water with Debbie Takara Shelor

The next Light Activation with Water series is coming up on August 9th with Debbie Takara Shelor.

Join me for this powerful series of energetic activations / initiations. This is my most easily affordable long distance energy healnig.

Previous participants say that after the Light Activation with water long distance energy healing sessions they have more clarity, confidence, and inner peace. Many have reported being able to finally shake loose of energies and people that have made them feel trapped for years. A wonderful step towards self empowerment.

For details and to register, visit

Have a deLightful day,

I would love to hear what you have to say about this subject!

Relationships in Harmony - What's Good and What Isn't

My thoughts on relationships based on a post I saw on Facebook:

Its a very interesting subject.

I am not at all sorry that mine is over. It served a beautiful purpose and was delightful for the first few years. It turned sour and both of us suffered by staying in it. I can't even put into words how glorious it feels to no longer be tied emotionally and energetically to that man. I wish him well. The day my divorce was finalized - as magically as that happened (took an hour and 10 minutes when it is "supposed" to take 61 days) - was one of the happiest days of my life. 

Relationships are as multifaceted as the people in them. 

Stuart Wilde used to say that relationships are for growth, not for life. I always disagreed with him until I was in my own situation that needed to end. I think it depends on the people and what they are intending. 

All of my new teachings are about harmony and disharmony, empowerment and disempowerment. 

Every relationship has its ups and downs, its highs and its lows, times when one partner has to give while the other receives, and then vice versa. But overall, if the relationship helps you soar, empowers you, makes you feel good about yourself, then it is well worth keeping, fighting for even. 

If it causes ongoing pain, disharmony, constriction, conflict, keeps you small or disempowered in any way - then get out! By staying in a relationship like that, you are telling the Universe that you don't deserve better. 

People need to be loved, accepted, and acknowledged for who they are and for their gifts. They need to give that to others. 

Surround yourself with people like that. Teach it to your children. Thank your friends for being that way. Give that sort of love and support to those around you. Insist that you receive it from your spouse. If the people in your life cause you to be in constant chaos and confusion, they need to not be in your life.

You can't truly love, accept and appreciate another, until you can do it for yourself. Get my eBook Freeway to Freedom to heal your wounds of the past so you can give and receive the love you so deserve.

Have a deLightful day,

I would love to hear what you have to say about this subject!

Friday, July 23, 2010

How to Have Overwhelming Gratitude and Joy Leading to More Peace and Happiness

Being in gratitude, or being thankful, is one of the most beneficial things you can do for peace of mind and to release negative thoughts and emotions. It is your way to achieve greater levels of happiness, joy, and peace. When you feel down, find something to be grateful for.

Go on a serious search for everything you can think of to be thankful for. It helps you to get out of your head and into your heart.

I sometimes feel sorry for people in North America. The land of the free, home of the brave, and big mortgages, fancy cars, and often way too many gadgets like iPods, Palm Pilots, cell phones, DVD players, large screen televisions, computers, etc. etc. We are bombarded in newspapers, on television, on billboards, and everywhere else we turn with all the things we supposedly need.

And if there isn't enough money to easily afford all that "stuff," it is sometimes easy to feel well poor, less than, like a failure, etc. Which quickly leads to feelings of unhappiness. It is a fear based thing. And love and fear can not occupy the same space. So you have to choose one over the other. If you are focused on all that things you don't have, you can not be feeling connected to Source and feeling the love and joy that naturally goes along with that. And if you are focused on all the things that you don't have and are not feeling love and joy, you will most likely never get the things you really desire. Law of attraction.

If you have read any of my books , you've probably read about all that stuff I used to have. The little red sports car, the limos in Manhattan, the cruises, the weekend getaways to fabulously fun locations.

There is alot more to the story of course. I was extremely unhappy. I had a complete stress-induced melt down and eventually left the glamorous life to find myself, love, and peace of mind.

I ended up with my husband, Raven, living a very simple life on top of a mountain in Southern California in the middle of a state park.The home had one truly unusual feature. If you placed a compass at the exact location where my chair sat at the kitchen table, it would spin around in circles. We were literally living on top of an energy vortex.

But it wasn't what was inside the house that mattered to us, it was the outside that was so glorious it still brings tears to my eyes when I think of it.

We lived literally in paradise.

All alone on a secluded mountain with deer eating fruit right off the tree outside the bedroom window, cougars leaving fresh paw prints in the snow next to the front porch, fox, and squirrel, and countless other creatures blessing us with their presence.

Every day I went outside with my notepads and pen. I had this perfect little spot. It was a grass covered circular opening in the forest. I was surrounded by trees and birds singing. The sun was smiling down on me. And I would sit and write. I wrote for hours every day for months. And while I was basking in the radiance of this nature nirvana, Raven was doing what he does best. He was off on an adventure in the woods, hiking, having conversations with the herds of deer he encountered, and lots of other simple awe inspiring pleasures that many people have never ever experienced. We were so joy-filled and happy.

Every day I walked a mile alone to the only store around, bought one or two little things, and walked a mile back. All along the way I would commune with every clump of wild flowers along my path.

The tiny little purple one's that refused to be photographed. Well every time I tried to photograph them they simply presented themselves as violet light. Beautiful, glowing, violet light with a hint of yellow. I have tons of photos like that of those little flowers. Some of them later became the Dancing Dolphin Essence "Ordination." The gorgeous and wildly uplifting yellow ones that made me feel giddy just looking at them.

The miraculous realization that the new plant I'd noticed was now growing a giant bloom. And I absolutely positively "knew" that it was only going to bloom 1 day when it opened.

And, as always happens when I'm to make an essence, I woke up promptly at 4 a.m. knowing that today was the day. I gathered my things, called in my guides and helpers, requested permission, and made "Transcendence." I can hardly put into words the power in that essence.

And there were many more.

It was a place of miracles. A place of joy, happiness, and miracles.

The miracle of getting in touch with myself, with my Creator, of sharing my life with someone I loved. The miracle of conceiving a child and feeling and observing the joyful changes of creating a new life. The miracle of Dancing Dolphin Essences being born.

The miracle of true joy. I was a certifiable bliss bunny. I have never been more happy. And I have never felt more grateful.

So you see, although I had an old car and lived in a very simple home, I experienced more happiness than most people will ever know. And we did it for almost a year. And for that short period of time, we didn't need to work. We taught the occasional class here or there with great appreciation from our students.

And then we re-entered upper middle class society and had a child.

Raven put on a suit and rode the train into the city to work at the largest bank in Canada at their main office downtown Toronto. We had radically switched gears.

Now I have to admit that I love my latest techno-gadgets. And I probably couldn't function at all without my computer. The big screen TV is so much fun to watch movies on.

I'm happy. Truly happy. And all that stuff is nice, but it isn't at all what really matters.

How you feel about yourself is what really counts.

Feeling an overwhelming love and joy in your heart because of your connection to Source is what makes all the difference. Your peace of mind and knowing that everything is as it should be is paramount.

I actually began writing this article in order to tell you about the overwhelming feeling of gratitude I experienced while visiting Taco Bell one day. I found it an unusual place to be so overcome with gratitude that I cried, but it is where it happened.

My son, Jess, is a pretty picky eater. When I discovered that he would eat a Chicken Burrito Supreme at Taco Bell I was overjoyed. So we stopped in about once a week.

We went in one day and I found myself looking around at all the little Hispanic ladies and gentlemen who work there. It was always the same lovely people who served us at lunch. And as I saw these people that I'd seen many times before, I was overcome with such a feeling of appreciation for the service they provide us, for the great tasting meal that they prepared for us to enjoy, I literally had tears running down my face.

Like everything that truly matters, it is a state of being.

Gratitude is a state of being. Love is a state of being. Joy is a state of being. Peace is a state of being. It is those states of being that you are seeking to experience, cultivate, and maintain.

I encourage you to dare to do whatever it takes to discover and become one with them.

My favorite quote:

"Life is either a daring adventure, or it is nothing." - Helen Keller

Have a deLightful day,


P.S. Dancing Dolphin Essences assist you in achieving and maintaining a specific state of being, helping you with gratitude, peace, happiness, and joy.

I would love to hear what you have to say about this subject!

Monday, July 12, 2010

Judgment vs. Discernment - What's the Difference and What Can It Do For You?

Grrrr . . . Damn that guy really pisses me off. He should not be . . . I can't believe he . . . That is so wrong . . . blah blah blah

You know when you are saying things like that, you are being judgmental.

How do you know?

It is sooooooo easy!

If you are upset, angry, fuming and telling others about the rightness or wrongness of another and their behavior, you are being judgmental. If you are pointing out the faults of another, you are being judgmental. If you are making statements about someone and you are emotionally upset about them and what you are saying about them, you are being judgmental.

You need to stop that.

Over and over again you hear that judging others is a bad idea. The law of cause and effect tells you that if you judge others, you will be judged. The Golden Rule says you should treat others the way you wish to be treated.

There are a few problems with the don't judge others rule.

First, it isn't easy. In fact, it isn't easy at all.

Second, do not judge another does not mean do not have an opinion or do not use discernment. And often people misunderstand that. They think they are supposed to just forgive everyone for everything and ignore poor behavior. No. No. No. That is called being a doormat.

And God does not want you to allow yourself to be mistreated by another. That is you saying that you - a child of God - are not important, don't matter, and not worthy of Divine love and happiness. That is definitely not the case. Your ability to connect with the Divine Presence actually improves when you become empowered, improve your self esteem, start to thrive, be happy, and feel fulfilled. When you surround yourself with others who appreciate your gifts and treat you with loving kindness, everyone is better off.

I've gone into depth in previous articles about all the things we judge - from a person's appearance, to their behavior, to the friends and career they choose. We have infinite opinions about the rightness and wrongness of things.

If you are talking about someone else and you are riled up, angry, upset, or stressed, then you can be pretty sure that you are being judgmental.

So if stress, anger, and getting all riled up about things ultimately leads to disease, heart attack, and other serious physical consequences, it only makes sense to eliminate the cause.

But, where to begin?

There is no right or wrong, good or bad. There are simply beneficial and detrimental things, people, and behavior. There are things, people, and behaviors that are harmonious or disharmonious for you, your life, and your well being.

Most people believe that killing another is wrong. And you can quote scriptures and a whole pile of other stuff to back up the point. But what if you have to kill someone in order to stop them from killing you or someone you love that is unable to defend themselves?


Eating sugar is considered detrimental to your health. But what if you are stranded on a deserted island and the only thing to eat is sugar cane? In that case it could actually be the only thing to save your life.


I could literally go on forever.

Money isn't bad. It is a means to afford the products, services, and experiences that you desire. It can be used for evil purposes. It can also fund food and shelter for people in need. What you do with it will cause it to be beneficial or detrimental for yourself and others.

Lying is considered evil. Yet in order to plan a special surprise party or gift for a loved one without their knowledge, sometimes truth has to be bent a bit to pull it off.

No one is strictly good or bad, right or wrong. Various behaviors by people are beneficial or detrimental. And that is what you have to keep in mind when choosing friends, a spouse, or a work environment.

When someone does something that is hurtful, you begin stepping out of judgment by not making the person wrong. You stop looking at the person as a totality and start looking at the behavior.

Certain behaviors are just not O.K.

And its easy to know which ones those are if you go back to the Golden Rule. Harming or mistreating another is never O.K. - whether the harm and mistreatment is physical, emotional, mental, or something else.

Rape, murder, infidelity, stealing, gossip, taking advantage of others for your own gain, cruelty, etc. all go against the Golden Rule. These behaviors are just not O.K. I'm sure you can think of many more.

These behaviors are not to be condoned. They are not to be accepted. And several of them result in the person being punished and taken out of society. The wellbeing of others is in jeopardy if they are walking around free on the streets. So they are banished, sometimes for life.

If someone you love mistreats you, it is shocking and painful. If it becomes a pattern, then you need to eliminate them from your life. That is called discernment.

You have to spend time with people who appreciate and accept who you are - warts and all. If you have to pretend to be a certain way, always worried that someone won't like you if you let them see who you really are, then that is a form of lying. You have to be real.

If the people in your life are always critical, judgmental, and unkind, then you are much better off without them.

There is nothing wrong with talking about a person and their behavior to your closest friend. I am not talking about gossip here. I mean looking at a situation with someone you trust and trying to discover the "truth" about how you played a role in the behavior, if that person was running some sort of fear that caused them to behave way out of character, or if this is the "truth" about how this person behaves and you need to distance yourself.

That is how you discover what feels good to you and what does not. That is how you discern the people and situations you choose to be around.

Judgment is detrimental to both you and your health.

Discernment is healthy and very necessary to your wellbeing and self esteem.

Have a deLightful day,

I would love to hear what you have to say about this subject!

Sunday, July 4, 2010

The Next Long Distance Energy Healing Light Activation with Water

The next Long Distance Energy Healing Light Activation with Water session is coming up soon. Register by midnight July 14th.

It's my most easily affordable long distance energy healing session.

Have a deLightful day,

I would love to hear what you have to say about this subject!

Sunday, June 20, 2010

Summer Solstice 2010 and the Gulf Oil Spill

According to the U.S. Naval Observatory, this year's Summer Solstice is Jun 21, 2010 at 7:28 AM EDT. 

Many groups are gathering in prayer, meditation, celebration, and setting of intention as the year's longest day (the most light) occurs. If you feel so moved, join in.

The Solstices and Equinoxes have been celebrated globally for thousands of years. Great civilizations all over the planet designed temples to precisely align with the sun particularly with the summer and winter solstice. These include Stonehenge in England, Chichen Itza in Mexico, Chaco Canyon in New Mexico, and many more. Scientists, historians, and other fact seeking  individuals and organizations are baffled in many cases at the precision with which these monuments align with the sun's movements.

Getting more in tune with nature, the earth, and the natural rhythms and cycles of the planet are a powerful way to access higher wisdom. It is almost as if the summer and winter solstices are the inbreath and outbreath of the planet itself. The more aligned you are with these natural rhythms, the more pronounced your intuition and ability to hear that still small voice within.

Many groups are using this energetically powerful portal time as a way to send healing light and global intention to the healing of the rupture in the earth's body and energy field related to the gulf oil spill fiasco. Join with my good friend Jonathan Goldman in toning

For people who are into channeling, here is another group with an intention:

Have a deLightful day,

I would love to hear what you have to say about this subject!

Saturday, June 19, 2010

Being Healthy and Avoiding Toxins Including Thimerisol in Vaccinations

The following article is based on a recent conversation I had on Facebook about Thimerisol, mercury and other toxins, vaccinations, and being healthy.

In both Canada and the U.S., the parents I know with Autistic children that I've had a chance to discuss possible causes with, have all indicated that their child was totally normal before vaccinations and the problems started soon after. I personally had severe reactions to topical products containing Thimerisol (mercury). Why would anyone think its O.k. to inject Thimerisol into a person?

 This following link is to an article about the person who's research "proves" (yeah right) that vaccinations and autism are unrelated. I strongly encourage you to check it out:

I'd been wearing my contacts and using the contact solution with Thimerisol for several months. One morning I woke up and my eyes were almost swollen shut. The eyes were pink and there was tons of this glue like white goop oozing out everywhere. The minute I got to the optometrist, he took one look at me and told his assistant to get the stamp. He put this huge - I mean like 5 inches wide - stamp across the front of my chart that said "Thimerisol allergy." I asked him why I hadn't reacted to it before now. He said I was "right on schedule," that it took exactly how ever many months it was for the reaction to happen. Anyway, that was at least 20 years ago.

The energy healing techniques I offer are primarily for energetic and emotional damage, not chemical. Mercury in the system is a toxic poison that significantly affects the nervous system and the brain. Products and techniques that assist in removing toxins in the body are beneficial, as are energy healing and other forms of alternative or complementary medicine.

But the best medicine - as is always the case - is prevention. It's better to not have mercury in the system - through Thimerisol or traditional teeth fillings - than to try to clean it up once its already doing damage. It's better to keep the body alkaline by eating healthy and avoiding things like soft drinks, than to have to clean up the disease and disfunction caused when the body is too acid. It's better to handle the stress causing issues before they cause the body to begin breaking down with illness and disease. The Xooma Xtreme X2O water enhancement product I drink daily and offer as well, helps to keep the body alkaline, and assists with the gentle cleansing of toxins. 

Most people treat their car better than their own body. They give it the proper type of fuel, they have the oil changed, they keep the engine and other important parts cleaned up so it runs well. We dump all kinds of "bad" things into our vehicle (body) and expect it to run as it was designed. It just doesn't work that way. Whatever goes in or on the body is absorbed and makes the system run well or horribly.

Have a deLightful day,
Debbie "Takara" Shelor

I would love to hear what you have to say about this subject!

Tuesday, June 1, 2010

Light Activation with Water

The next Light Activation with Water series is coming up on June 11th.

Join me for this powerful series of energetic activations / initiations. Previous participants say that after the Light Activation with water long distance energy healing sessions they have more clarity, confidence, and inner peace.

For details and to register, visit

Have a deLightful day,

Monday, May 31, 2010

Memorial Day, Patriotism, and Being a Citizen of the World

Today's message to my readers has certainly caused lots of interesting reactions.

One reader basically called me unpatriotic. Another wanted off my mailing list because war is wrong and they couldn't believe I'd send out something remembering the fallen on memorial day. I found both reactions quite interesting.

This was my message to my newsletter readers today:


I just wanted to take this opportunity to share my deepest gratitude and appreciation for those men and women who have suffered and died so that we could be free here in the United States. Also thanks to the men and women who are currently serving or who have served in the past. And all the families and friends who have suffered because someone they love was away or lost in battle.
We take so many things in this country for granted sometimes. And we complain and criticize the politics, the wars, the "other guys" and what they are doing that is in opposition to how we think things should be done.
But the truth is without the armed forces of the United States and all they have done for us including selflessly risking their lives, we might live like so many people do in other parts of the world:

  • without a free education

  • without great literature and news easily available at the local library

  • without clean, safe water to drink

  • without free representation if you've been accused of a crime

  • without the ability to speak freely about the things you care about

  • without the ability to worship in the manner you choose

  • without the ability to get a job, own a home, own a business, get a higher education regardless of your race, nationality, religion, gender, political party, etc.

  • without the ability to change your life circumstance and go after and attain your dreams.
My son sometimes asks me where I most want to live in the world.
I may not always agree with the politics, or the wars, or the way the tax money is divvied up between programs and services provided. I am deeply saddened by our history and how we severely mistreated various groups of people like the Native Americans, the African Americans, the Chinese and other immigrants, etc. But despite all that, the answer to where I most want to live in the world is almost always within U.S. borders.
Thanks again for your service.
Many blessings to those still serving and the countless friends and family who have suffered because someone they love was lost or is currently away from home serving their country.
Within minutes of sending out the message, I got one back from a reader wanting off my list. Couldn't believe I would send such "crap." Her reaction prompted me to write this:


Up until about a year ago, I had a certain opinion about war and the military.
However, in the past year I have been surrounded by people who have been in the military, are in the military, or have lost loved ones in the military. The Unitarian Universalist church I attend did a very beautiful service for memorial day yesterday. Several members of the congregation, including a dear man I have greatly enjoyed getting to know because of our common interest in metaphysics, shared their stories of being in the military - some by choice, others by draft. Every one of them openly wept about what they saw, the people they lost, the memories they have. I was deeply moved.
The guy I began dating from high school who took me to prom 30 years ago, went in to the military right after high school and ended up in special forces. I never knew that until we started dating. He was shipped off to Teheran where he watched his buddies get blown to bits and he himself was hit and almost didn't make it. Through his eyes and with his help, I was able to see all of it from a completely different perspective.
It is not something I would chose for myself or my own son. I don't agree with the wars going on right now. And yet, as I am going deeply into world history as I homeschool my son, I am realizing that certain times when we were involved in war, it has been very important that we do so. Was it not imperative that we get involved after Pearl Harbor and help end the nightmare that was Hitler's regime? Heck, if I'd been alive and knew what was going on over there, I might have even volunteered to do something to stop it. In Korea, where my father served during the war, we were trying to prevent the spread of communism. I don't really know for sure, but I don't think communism has been a good thing.
Soldiers aren't bad people. In fact, the guy from high school is one of the kindest, most giving, compassionate, caring people that ever walked on the face of this earth. He was willing to die and he almost did. Not everyone who joins the military is of the same character. Some just want to "blow up the commies" or whatever they think. But there are a whole bunch of others who are doing it for noble reasons - for protection, for service, because they love their country, their families, their way of life.     
War, like most things, is not as simple as black and white, good and bad, right and wrong. 
To walk the journey I walk, I've been forced to look at my judgments of everything. And this was a big one for me. 
I grieve when others suffer. Soldiers and their families are no exception.
I wish you well,


Later on I went on Facebook and discovered that one of my friends had disliked the way I said "where I most want to live in the world is almost always within U.S. borders." Apparently that isn't being patriotic enough. So that comment prompted me to write the following:


I've already married a foreigner and left the U.S., lived off American soil, even became a permanent resident somewhere else - heaven forbid - LOL.

If I was willing to do something once, then perhaps I would do it again. Every day is a new day and I have no idea what my future holds. I've moved for love more than once. I've moved for work more than once. Could either of those things, or something else, take me to another foreign land? Who knows. But I am definitely open to all possibilities.

I greatly enjoyed my time with our Canadian neighbors. If it weren't so bloody cold, I might still be there.

Most of the people I know who have lived in a foreign country, even for a little while, have been greatly enriched by the experience.

My son is a dual citizen. I'm thrilled for him.

Beautiful places all over the world call out to me -  San Diego, Hawaii, Belize, New Zealand, and many more. As my friend, Brian, island hops by boat for a whole year, I see the photos he posts and wonder if that place is somewhere I might like to visit or even live for awhile.

I am human just like 6.8 billion other people. My home is earth. I want happiness, health, and freedom from tyranny for everyone on the planet regardless of country, gender, age, religion, race, economic status, education level, political view, and anything else that keeps us artificially separated.

I'm an American citizen. I live on American soil. I enjoy the people and place where I currently live.

Yet I am definitely a person of the world. I've traveled and love to do so. I love finding out about cultures, food, dress, customs and religions others enjoy. I don't like war. I don't even like arguments. I care when others are suffering - I don't care who they are or where they live.

I look at the whole of the earth and all its creatures as a mother, or even grandmother, looks on her children or her grandchildren. They are all different. Yet they are all loved and cared for. I want them all to be healthy, safe, nurtured and protected. I want them all to thrive and be happy.

I loved a soldier and he touched my soul. I felt his pain and the pain of all the soldiers and all the families that have ever dealt with the aftermath of war. This day is about remembering their loss and their gift of service.   

May they all be blessed,

Wednesday, May 26, 2010

Wesak Full Moon and Light Activation with Water

The latest Here's to Your Magnificence newsletter is available at

It contains my latest article on the church, Jesus, angels, dolphins, and the Wesak Full Moon. I introduce a new long distance energy healing method called Light Activation with Water.

Have a deLightful day,

I would love to hear what you have to say about this subject!

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

Taking Responsibility for Your Health, Wealth, Happiness, Success, Love, Fulfillment, and Inner Peace

Have you ever made the conscious choice to take responsibility for your health, your wealth, your happiness, your success, your love, your sense of fulfillment and level of inner peace?

You have to do that you know!

You can be a victim, feeling like things outside yourself are the cause of your poor health, your failed relationships, your financial mess, or you anger. And as long as you believe that it is those things outside of you, the things you have no control over, that make or break your happiness, your health, your relationships, well everything in your life, then you will continue to be at the whim of the universe. You can blame the economy, your genetics, your spouse, your parents, your boss, the government and on and on about the life you are living. But the truth is, you have much more influence than you think.

If you want to improve a certain area of your life, then you have to seek out experts and learn about things you can do to change. Its you that must do the changing.

When you realize that you actually have a great deal of influence on your life circumstances, then you will realize that you can change a little or a lot and see dramatic results.

Einstein said the definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over and expecting a different result.

If your life isn't working, then something needs to change.

If your health is not what you'd like it to be, then you must change what you eat, drink, breathe, and even read and watch.

If your relationships aren't what you'd like them to be, then you must change how you speak, listen, react, and interact with others.

If your finances aren't what you'd like them to be, then you must change how you spend, save, invest, and otherwise use your money.

If your level of happiness and inner peace aren't what you'd like them to be, then you must change how you view the world, let go of your past, learn to meditate, forgive, connect with nature, spend time alone taking care of you, and much more.

The interesting thing about happiness is that if you discover how to be more happy, the other areas of life naturally fall in line. Finances, health, relationships, and everything tend to improve when you have a better state of mind.

Life works when you are happy, it sucks when you are not.

Have a fabulous day,

Tuesday, May 18, 2010

Get Healthy, Eat Healthy, Lose Weight, Have More Energy, Enjoy Life More!

Get Healthy, Eat Healthy, Lose Weight, Have More Energy, Enjoy Life More!

Can't believe people haven't figured out that you can't put crap in or on your body and expect to stay healthy. What starts on the soil, on the plant, or in the animal, ends up making your new cells. Gosh, I think it would take a rocket scientist to figure out that the only way to have healthy cells, is to feed them truly healthy food - sans chemicals. Duh! Seriously - what most people don't know about health and nutrition, I find truly scary!

For me personally, and people I know personally, the elimination of as many chemicals as possible from what we put in or on our body made a gigantic difference in our health. I went from needing 16 hours of sleep a day to only 6, with ample energy, and all body systems functioning significantly better than before. When you practically live at the doctors office and your health simply continues to get worse despite all the crap (sorry, medicine) they give you to take, you do what I did and seek alternative answers. I am NOT saying to ignore your doctor's advice or stop taking medicine that you need. I'm saying take full responsibility for your health and in addition to what the doctor suggests, learn to take better care of yourself. Study what the Bragg people have to say. Some of it sounds weird, but it definitely does work.

I know a little girl who ran barefoot across a neighbor's lawn that had been "treated" for pests and she began have severe seizures that took several years and many doctors and alternative therapies to straighten out. The pesticide is the same stuff sold at any home and garden store.

I'm all about prevention and wellness now.

I've seen miraculous changes in people's health, including my own, when they simply learn how to eat better, supplement with vitamins, minerals, and herbs, drink plenty of "good" water - not the junk that comes out of the tap, exercise regularly, get plenty of rest, eliminate soda entirely, stop smoking, stop spraying their lawns, their bodies, and their homes with toxins.

God gave us a body that was designed to function perfectly. And people who take great care of it, like the Okinawans -, reap the benefits of a very long life. The U.S. comes out 48th in life expectancy.

As a form of senior insurance, I recommend eating right, drinking plenty of pure fresh water, 

We need fewer fast foods and more organically grown veggies, less soda and more healthy tea, less french fries and more brown rice.

I'm not vegetarian. But I eat much less red meat than I do fish.

I've been healthy and I've been severally unhealthy. It took weird Chinese herbs and a complete change in eating, sleeping, exercise, and everything else patterns to get me to the level of health and vibrancy I experience today.

I've seen numerous research results indicating that the levels of various very important nutrients are much higher in organic produce than in non-organic. In many places - unfortunately not in the part of the U.S. where I live - organic is competing quite well in price with its chemical ridden cousins.

Its not just about eliminating what's not good for you. Its also about adding truly beneficial things. When you are getting truly high nutrient powerful food, and your body is utilizing it properly, the cravings for junk actually reduce significantly or goes away altogether. When people add the Xooma Xtreme X2O product I offer to their daily regimen, besides more energy, and weight loss, etc., one of the first things that happens is the reduction in desire for unhealthy stuff. Another great power food choice is blue green algae. My body loves the stuff.

As a form of senior insurance, I recommend eating right, drinking plenty of pure fresh water, exercising regularly, and supplementing daily with Xooma Xtreme X20 water enhancement product with minerals (

My main focus is the emotional/mental causes of poor health - healing the past and all that. But your health affects your ability to concentrate, make good decisions, and function in the world. A healthy body is fundamental to being in flow with the Universe.

Sunday, May 9, 2010

Peace and Mother's Day

Are Mother's the Answer to Peace?

I once had the great honor of being told several teaching stories by a Lakota Elder, Selo Black Crow. One of the things he told me was that when a group of women come together to pray, they can change everything. Even though he is no longer with us, his words have remained forever etched within my heart.

This video about Mother's Day for Peace was posted by one of my friends on Facebook:

The ideas presented in the Mother's Day for Peace video represent the very epitome of who I am and what I'm about. 

My love, care, and compassion have no boundaries or borders. I weep as much for the starving child in Africa as I do for the homeless child living on the streets of L.A. or the one in my own town who just lost their mother to cancer. 

I have concern not only for the safety of my own child, but for the safety of all children.

I don't just worry about the dramas going on in the lives of my best friends, but in the lives of all people  experiencing pain and suffering.

My love and concern, my blessings and thoughts of hope look beyond a person's:
  • gender,
  • age,
  • nationality,
  • religion,
  • political party,
  • lifestyle choice,
  • occupation,
  • social status,
  • skin color,
  • education level, or
  • anything else.
When we stop noticing our differences and focus on our similarities, we will know peace.
When we can put ourselves in someone else's shoes for even a brief moment, we will experience a deeper level of understanding, compassion, and forgiveness for their behavior.
When we soften our gaze, let go of our judgment and criticism of one another, we will see the beauty of each individual and it will shine forth.
When we realize that people are doing the best they can, and if they had the tools and knew another way they would make different choices, we would find forgiveness easier to give.
When we realize that God has already forgiven us, then we can forgive ourselves, and then in turn we can forgive others.

For without the forgiveness of self, there can be no forgiveness of others.
Without the love of self, there can be no love of others.
Without compassion for self, there can be no compassion for others.
Without appreciation and acceptance of self, there can be no appreciation and acceptance of another.

We are all in this together. How we choose to live our lives and interact with others is a choice. We can be angry, cynical, and judgmental about the people in our world. Or we can choose peace, acceptance, and compassion instead. One leads to unhappiness. The other to joy.

Have a delightful day,

Saturday, May 8, 2010

Shamanism Books and Earth Based Spirituality

When a person begins seeking answers to life's many mysteries, they sometimes end up on a spiritual journey. Some are drawn to study eastern religions. Others learn about angels, ascended masters, and connecting with other beings of light. And some are drawn to the native traditions known as Shamanism or earth based spirituality.

Are you drawn to books and practices related to Shamanism and Earth Based Spirituality?

There are as many shamanic paths as there are native traditions from around the globe. Shaman means "one who sees in the dark," meaning they are aware of, and can navigate, in the unseen world. I'm talking about what exists beyond the 5 senses. You can learn more about that in my article about shamanism and earth based spirituality.

Many people became aware of the Toltec tradition as a spiritual path through the writings of  Carlos Castaneda and other authors writing about a Toltec teacher from Mexico known as Don Juan.

I studied the Castaneda stuff for awhile. Met several people who had once lived in Mexico and been part of that teaching. I even met a guy who was rumored to be the actual Don Juan. I did a weekend workshop with a Toltec woman living in California. Although interesting, I found the whole Castaneda/Don Juan path of shamanism a very difficult one. It often called for very arduous physical and mental practices. Recapitulation can take years. But the bottom line for me was that all the people I met who followed that path were tense, serious, fairly unhappy people.

More recently, Miguel Ruiz introduced an even larger audience to the Toltec Path. His Four Agreements are widely studied and practiced and seem to contain none of the rigorous disciplines of the Castaneda era. One of my best friends is studying it with her Husband. A nice choice for learning how to love, play, and work with others.
The Four Agreements Toltec Wisdom Collection: 3-Book Boxed Set

If you like the earth based spiritual approach, my absolute favorite book is Shaman, Healer, Sage by Alberto Villoldo. He has several other very good books.
Shaman, Healer, Sage: How to Heal Yourself and Others with the Energy Medicine of the Americas

I'm really into spiritual adventure novels. I like them because they tell an interesting story and you get to learn about spiritual practices and techniques at the same time.

If you like the feel of being in the Andies with the shaman or "medicine" people there, a great story is The Brotherhood of the Magi by Jessie Ayani.
The Brotherhood of the Magi

The Warrior series by Dan Millman is also very thought provoking and fun.
Way of the Peaceful Warrior: A Book That Changes Lives

Hank Wesselman's series is very fascinating. It forces you to contemplate a few things you might not even consider otherwise. I've met all of these authors at one time or another. Hank is in my friends list on Facebook if you want to check out more about him.
Spiritwalker: Messages from the Future

If you want to learn about Soul Retrieval, Sandra Ingerman's book is very good. She has taught people the world over. I attended one of her workshops while living in Santa Fe. I almost laughed out loud when she started talking about the ways various shaman enter the other worlds for healing. One way is by imagining going down into water. I've been leading people in guided meditations for over 15 years and I often tell them to imagine going down into water. I didn't know until her class that what I had been doing all these years could be officially called a shamanic journey. As with most of the techniques I teach, I was just using the words and imagery that came to me while in meditation and prayer.
Soul Retrieval: Mending the Fragmented Self

The processes in my ebook, Freeway to Freedom, can be used in place of recapitulation (Toltec) and/or soul retrieval (various shamanic traditions). They are significantly easier, faster, and don't require nearly the hardship that the shamanic path sometimes entails.

There are numerous other books on Shamanism and Earth Based Spirituality. These are just a few that I've read over the years.

Wednesday, May 5, 2010

Healthy Bodies, Healthy Babies

I was involved in a discussion on Facebook with the minister at the Unitarian Universalist church I attend. The discussion was about how U.S. women come up 28th on a list of best places to be a mother. We ended up talking about pregnancy. Many of those who made comments were talking about lack of health insurance and other possible causes of pregnancy complications and even death.

 "A woman in the Unites States is more than five times as likely as a woman in Bosnia and Herzegovina, Greece or Italy to die from pregnancy-related causes in her lifetime and her risk of maternal death is nearly 10-fold that of a woman in Ireland," the report said.

Since I've been working on a book about the topic, this is what I had to say:

Guess thats why I had mine at home in water in Canada, without a doctor or a midwife. Caution - don't try this at home. lol 
Rumor has it that lying on your back with your feet in the air was started by Louis (the something) of France who was a voyeur - wanted to watch the ladies of the court give birth, among other things. Since the aristocrats were doing it, the peasants wanted to be like them, and it traveled through Europe like the plague. Goes against gravity. Completely unnatural. 
I know tons of ladies who didn't do it the "normal" way and we had little to no pain. Some of the ladies I interviewed for a book I was writing about pregnancy had their baby completely pain free in 45 minutes flat. 
The bottom line with pregnancy is that humans have been doing it as long as there have been humans. It is natural. It is normal. It is not a medical crisis - yet in this country that is how it is treated. Everyone is freaked out and scared and it is impossible to relax and let nature take its course when one is freaked out and scared.

Most people in this country have no clue how to care for themselves. They don't exercise. They live on caffeine. They don't get enough sleep. I think it has a great deal to do with what Americans consider diet. Inexpensive "food" like giant sodas, junk food, and fried foods are the perfect ingredients for bad health - for both mother and child.

Without a well balanced diet full of trace minerals, greens, enough water, etc. the body simply can't do what it needs to do. Systems don't work, digestion doesn't happen, hormones don't operate property.  If people learned how to care for themselves, they wouldn't need nearly the amount of medical intervention - or affordable life insurance online - as they do now.

My former landlord in Santa Fe took his family to Italy. He was amazed at the difference in the people there. He said he and his family were the only fat people he saw anywhere. Everyone walked a great deal. That means they are outside and moving their body. The Mediterranean diet is also a very healthy one.

Everyone I know that had a pain free and/or quick birth took time for themselves, spent a great deal of time outside in nature, walked a lot, ate very very well, and meditated regularly. When you do those things you are not only in touch with your own body, but the body of the child you are carrying.  That is how I spent my pregnancy.

I knew the day I conceived. I knew he was a boy. I knew he was backwards. I was simply in touch with nature, my own body, and my child. That's how to have a healthy birth.

Tuesday, May 4, 2010

Flowing with Life Instead of Fighting Against It

One of my high school buddies posted a comment about all the "bad:" things that happened to him recently. He said that even though things were not what he would like, he found himself saying "oh well" instead of getting upset. This was my comment to him:

"I've spent half my life teaching people how to not get all bent out of shape when life throws you a curve ball. In those moments of reaction, you stress yourself out which affects your health and your ability to think clearly and make good decisions. "Oh well," lets you experience the moment in its fullness and see options and solutions you never would if you were angry or upset. Flowing with life, not against it, leads to a more joy-filled life all around. Good for you . . ."

Every day we face situations that we can flow with, or fight against. Here are several of my articles to help you learn to flow:

How to Flow With Life in a Rigid World
How to Handle Change with Ease and Grace
Being Stuck in Negativity - The Negative Thinking Spin, Don't Go There!
You Know When You Are In the Universal Flow
Personal Growth Requires that when Faced With Change You Make Different Choices
On a Wing and a Prayer, Following Faith, Intuition, and Trust (Watch out - this one is mighty esoteric!)
Learning to Ride the Waves of Life (Another very esoteric, but powerful article, for you to enjoy!)


Thursday, April 22, 2010

Love Relationships, Romance, Rejection, and Taking Care of You

Relationships, especially romantic ones, can be tricky.

Love means different things to different people. There are as many different definitions of love, and ways of expressing it, as there are people on the planet.

We all have a completely unique perspective on love and relationship. Each person has watched their parents and other adults, seen movies, and gone through their own experiences. The relationships they have had with their parents, siblings, friends, co-workers, and former romantic partners all come together to create their view of the subject of love. Often, it's what they didn't get themselves that they then give to another to show their love and appreciation.

Sadly, romantic love almost always involves emotional pain at one time or another. It can begin in early childhood when family or friends treat you unkindly. Later, you may have a crush on someone who doesn't reciprocate those feelings. As you grow older and romantic relationships get more complicated, it's hard to escape some form of emotional pain when it ends.

When the person you are in love with leaves you for another, well it can be devastating. Sometimes other people interfere, tell lies, manipulate you or the other person, causing  problems and even total destruction of your relationship.

I've been romantically involved - "going together," dating, or being married - for the past 35 years. Wow - that is a very long time. After my 10-year marriage ended, I went through this deja-vu time of reconnecting with old boyfriends. In particular, I ended up re-connecting, and dating, every one of the guys who broke my heart somewhere along the way. What a crazy, and fun, experience.

I was amazed to find out that one of the guys that I was truly in love with, also had loved me way back when. It turns out that a certain girl we both knew had fed him a lie, and he had believed it. We were both in love and the other never knew it. How ridiculous. And at the same time, how wonderful to find out that I wasn't really rejected, defective, not enough, blah blah, as I had once thought.

The problem with feeling rejected, is that it seriously damages self esteem. Enough of this from relationships gone bad, and a person ends up a mess. The relationships they draw to themselves reflect their poor sense of self, their feelings of unworthiness, and they take on this sticky pathetic energy of "please love me." Or, they become mean and cranky.

Before you can draw to yourself a truly loving, empowering partner, you have to heal your own wounds from past relationships. (I encourage you to check out freeway to freedom and my newest Dancing Dolphin product: "Purity of Essence." Follow that up with Dancing Dolphin "Divine Love" and you will be amazed at the difference!)

If you are kind and honest and in a relationship where the other person is not, it usually takes a little while to figure that out.

There is the euphoria in the beginning - the honeymoon period. You see everything through rosy colored glasses. You feel fabulous. The world looks wonderful. The other person seems perfect. This tainted view can last awhile - 3 months to 3 years - in some cases. (This not only applies to love relationships, but to jobs, friendships, and every new thing. At first we tend to not see it clearly.)

And then the real person begins to come through. Their "warts" start to show. I'm talking about the qualities, habits, and other attributes that aren't really in alignment with who you are or what you want in relationship.

A truly empowering relationship can only happen when someone knows who you are (warts and all), and is delighted, honored even, to be with you. The only way to have someone "adore" you though, is if you also adore them. Not putting them on a pedestal, but truly feeling blessed that they are in your life.

Acceptance and appreciation are the hallmarks of empowering relationships. I'm not talking about false flattery. I'm talking about true appreciation for who the person is and what they mean to you. Every person in your life is a gift - be it spouse, child, parent, friend, or a total stranger. Treat them as such.

If you are with someone who makes you feel bad in any way, drains you emotionally or energetically, then its time to get out. You are being dis-empowered, and it will only get worse over time.

When either person is taking the other for granted, speaking unkindly, using guilt or other forms of manipulation to get their own way, everyone loses. You have to love yourself enough to say "no more." You have to love and appreciate yourself enough to know that you are worth being happy, being treated kindly, and being loved.

Unfortunately, depending on how long you have been with someone, it can be very complicated to get out of it. This is especially true if you are married, have children, work together, and such.

Regardless of the potential heartache involved in relationships, I believe in a couple of things: "Life is either a daring adventure, or it is nothing" - Helen Keller, and "It's better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all." I don't know who came up with that.

I am, and forever more will be, an optimist about everything and a true romantic at heart.

How about you?
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