Thursday, November 18, 2010

Adultery and Facebook

Someone posted a comment on my wall on Facebook asking if I'd heard about the minister who insisted that his leadership turn off their facebook pages because it leads to adultery.

This was my response:

"Where there's a will, there's a way I think." Leading to adultery - I don't think so. If a person chooses to have a conversation with a person of the opposite sex, then they should use common sense, manners, and appropriateness - whether they are on or off line.

Marriage is a sacred contract and adultery isn't typically a part of that equation. Doesn't mean every person follows that rule. Look at the divorce statistics - much of it has to do with wandering spouses and the pain that causes. lol (lol means laugh out loud for those who don't yet know the little codes used texting messages.)

Anyway, when two people are married, - continuing to love, honor, and cherish one another - they just aren't going to stray. If they are taking each other for granted, belittling one another, constantly criticizing or being criticized, and no longer appreciating the "gift" of the other person in their life, the marriage is in trouble and FB is one of many great places to have an extramarital thing - finding someone who does appreciate you.

I won't get into the middle age crisis and the totally stupid things people do then.

I love what Paul Newman said about his wife. Someone asked him if he ever strayed and his reply was, "Why go out for hamburger, when you have steak at home." Not that I'm really into beef. lol. But I believe that if you can't continuously adore (appreciate everything about a person, quirks and all), then you shouldn't be married to them.

But I'm a very loyal and committed person. When I make a commitment, I stick to it through thick and thin. Not everyone is like that. I learned that the hard way.

The ability to chat with someone is fun on FB. And I've certainly had guys flirt with me. But I rarely engage in chats with people I don't know. Most of the time I appear "offline." I'm too busy. I have too much going on in life. I'd rather call the people I want to talk to.

Bottom line, FB is a great place to share what's going on in your life, find out what's happening with your friends, and reconnect with people you haven't heard from in ages. It's also a great place to network for business.

If you like your spouse and your marriage, don't do anything to mess it up. It has too much value. The price isn't worth it. Trust is a delicate thing. Once its gone, everything else falls apart like a house of cards.   

Have a deLightful day,
Deb 

I would love to hear what you have to say about this subject!

1 comment:

GrettaMarlboro said...

The kind of readership that follows a person instructing them to turn off their FB because it leads to adultery is the same unconscious kind of readership vulnerable to adultery in the first place because they have surrendered their personal sovreignity to their unconscious urges and desires, and to outside authority. Sheep. Adulterous? Maybe when opportunity collides with lack of self-knowledge or self-control, or repressed appetite. Adult? Hardly.

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